“We are not permitted to choose the frame of our destiny, but what we put into it is ours.” … Dag Hammarskjold
I so resonate with today’s quote. If I had had my druthers I would never have chosen a frame which had as an integral part of its decoration the death of a child, a battle with cancer, a major infection in an already replaced hip nor the anything-but-enjoyable, multiple 4 hour operations to fix said infection which then made up 3 of the four corners. It definitely would not have included the loss of beloved friends, the stresses of a marriage gone bad: nor the sleepless nights spent worrying about how to make ends meet.
But then again … if I could have picked out my own frame … and it had been filled with nothing but rosy moments, cuddly times, friends who came and stayed forever-and-ever … and love never lost … then I really wouldn’t be the person who fills the current frame … now would I !??! I’m glad that we all have hindsight and I’m glad that mine is 20-20. It lets me see how the jagged edges of the frame made me swerve into different life paths. From the perspective of distance I can see the melted chunks that reflect my brushes with Celestial fire … and right next to them … shining brightly … are newly fired aspects of me … not seen anywhere else in the whole collage!
I think that it’s probably a good thing that we don’t get the big gestalt of the framework of our lives … right at the beginning: for most of us it would just be too daunting and overwhelming … and then the journey would be over before it even started! Despite … or maybe because of … everything that has happened I find that I am happier now than at any other time in my life. I made it through the tough times. I survived the really challenging times and now Life is helping me to fill my frame with opportunities to truly thrive.
I’m a happy camper! And really … isn’t that what life is all about? To paraphrase Dag Hammarskjold … we may not always like what’s around us or what’s happening to us … we can’t always change our outside circumstances … but how we deal with them and who we become because of them is always up to us. Life and I are in the process of planning some great new additions to the old painting of my life … Polly wants to use neon coloured, finger-paints … Sunshine Sue wants to take a more orderly approach and stay inside of the lines. Ultimately my artist’s soul will probably add a little bit of each … and then we’ll all sit back to watch what wondrous surprises Life adds to our mix … I feel a Masterpiece coming on … 😀
Arinaste and Godspeed Everybody