“The place to improve the world is first in one’s own heart and head and hands: and then work outward from there.” … Robert M. Pirsig
It seems to me that everybody is so busy trying to “fix’ everybody else that they have forgotten to take a long, hard look at the man or woman who is staring back at them from the mirror. I know, I know … it’s so much easier to look outwards and see what everyone else is doing wrong than to have to admit that we might be doing the same thing … or worse … ourselves. Ouch … that just hurts!
It’s the old “One-Finger, Three-Finger” thing! A beautiful friend taught this rule to me … and I cannot even begin to tell you how many times I’ve had to admit that I was hip-deep in the middle of it! What’s the rule you ask? Well … when you get the urge to point your finger outwards at the object of your displeasure, grumpiness, hurt or anger … take a good look at your hand as you are doing said action … uh-oh … there’s that one finger pointing right out at the supposed source of the problem … and darn it all anyways … there are my other three fingers curled up and pointing right back at me.
Along the way I have discovered that it is just easier … and certainly more productive … if I simply keep my hand down … my finger in … and when I’m seriously tempted to blame, accuse or judge someone else … to sit myself down and have a good long chat with that unhappy, wounded part of me that wants to shift the blame. It isn’t always easy to admit that judgement has set up shop inside of me … but I’ve found that once I’ve routed out the causes for said judgment it’s a whole lot easier to void Judgement’s lease on my inner space and move it on down the road so that I can bring in more joy-filled partners to create with .
“The place to improve the world is first in (my) heart and head and hands:” that then frees me up to make more productive, compassionate and loving choices in my actions, my work and my words. After all if I’m not willing to stop heaping judgment and blame on myself how am I ever going to be able to see those around me clearly? And if I can’t see them … or myself … clearly how am I ever going to be able to treat them fairly and with the care and consideration that they hunger for in their hearts and souls? I figure since Life seems to operate without the “One-Finger, Three-finger” Rule being in play … then maybe I can too. At the very least it’s a goal and my heart’s intention … and whilst I don’t always manage it right away … I’m happy to report that the fingers are getting considerably less exercise than ever before!
Arinaste Everyone (from my heart to your heart)