“Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth.” … Rumi
Everybody seems to have expectations … of themselves … of their families and friends … and of the world – its leaders and its people. I have a hard time with that. For me expectations are like “shoulds” … they take us down roads that go nowhere good and usually lead straight to Disappointment and its twin city … Payback.
I think that people have forgotten that to “expect” something is actually to be in “the state of looking forward to or anticipating a prospect of future good”. Its synonyms include such words as: anticipation, hope and trust. That’s a far cry from the state of onerous, demanding, duty-like obligation that has come to be associated with the word.
These last few years I have learned to go more gently with myself and as I did so I learned to stop putting so many rigid, time-stamped, almost-impossible-to-meet demands … or as the world calls them … expectations … on myself … and consequently stopped trying to impose said structure upon the people around me. I slowly stopped living with … and projecting outward … the limiting demands of control and fear … and instead … have begun redefining what my present and my future … my inside and my outside; and my dreams, wishes and intentions … look like. I have; as Rumi said … begun to unfold my own myth.
My “shoulds” and my “expectations” have predominantly gone the way of the dodo bird. I feel so much lighter and happier without them! And you know what’s interesting? I actually get more accomplished now that I am easier with myself and others than I used to in the old days of “beating myself up”. Dreams, intentions and a comfortable walk with Life have replaced the old unrealistic demands … and the funny thing is … I always seem to end up in the right place to unfold the next paragraph … or chapter … of my life story. I’m really happy living this way … and am anticipating that this “happy state” will continue … and will continue to get better and better. Sunshine Sue is out buying new sunglasses and Perky Polly is dusting off her best dress … ‘O.K. Life … we’re ready … let the good times roll.’
Arinaste Everyone (from my heart to your heart)