No more false expectations … only good times

“Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth.”    …   Rumi

Everybody seems to have expectations … of themselves … of their families and friends … and of the world – its leaders and its people.  I have a hard time with that.  For me expectations are like “shoulds” … they take us down roads that go nowhere good and usually lead straight to Disappointment and its twin city … Payback.

 I think that people have forgotten that to “expect” something is actually to be in “the state of looking forward to or anticipating a prospect of future good”.  Its synonyms include such words as: anticipation, hope and trust.  That’s a far cry from the state of onerous, demanding, duty-like obligation that has come to be associated with the word.

These last few years I have learned to go more gently with myself and as I did so I learned to stop putting so many rigid, time-stamped, almost-impossible-to-meet demands … or as the world calls them … expectations … on myself … and consequently stopped trying to impose said structure upon the people around me.  I slowly stopped living with … and projecting outward … the limiting demands of control and fear … and instead … have begun redefining what my present and my future … my inside and my outside; and my dreams, wishes and intentions … look like.  I have; as Rumi said … begun to unfold my own myth.

My “shoulds” and my “expectations” have predominantly gone the way of the dodo bird.  I feel so much lighter and happier without them!  And you know what’s interesting?  I actually get more accomplished now that I am easier with myself and others than I used to in the old days of “beating myself up”.  Dreams, intentions and a comfortable walk with Life have replaced the old unrealistic demands … and the  funny thing is … I always seem to end up in the right place to unfold the next paragraph … or chapter … of my life story.  I’m really happy living this way … and am anticipating that this “happy state” will continue … and will continue to get better and better.  Sunshine Sue is out buying new sunglasses and Perky Polly is dusting off her best dress … ‘O.K. Life … we’re ready … let the good times roll.’

Arinaste Everyone (from my heart to your heart)



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1 Response to No more false expectations … only good times

  1. wowgoldteb says:

    kinda liked what you have written . it just is not that easy to discover great stuff to read (you know really READ and not simply going through it like a zombie before going to yet another post to just ignore), so cheers man for really not wasting my time on the god forsaken internet. 🙂

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