It’s time to stop participating in the “Shoulda-Coulda-Woulda Marathon”

The day is done. What has happened has happened … and you can’t change it. Allow it to be a part of yesterday. Breathe in the possibilities of tomorrow. Relax.” … Susanne

It seems to me that … as a whole … we have become a world-wide culture of people who spend their time looking backwards. I must confess that I don’t understand why so many of our leaders seem to be either trying to convince us that returning to yesterday would cure what ails us … or … keep resentments alive by resurrecting the often gory and very in-glorious past. The first one is a lie that serves no-one and the second one is an inflammatory action guaranteed to produce knee-jerk reactions. Fortunately … whilst the Powers-That-Be may wish that we all had our heads buried in the sand I’m going to go out on an optimistic limb here and say: “I don’t think that’s the case!”

Like a great many people I have found that if I spend all of my time looking backwards I have no time … and no energy … for looking forwards. The down times of the past exhaust me as they run the “Shoulda-Coulda-Woulda” Marathon in my head … and the good times leave me longing. I don’t know about you but so far I haven’t found that either state is at all helpful in creating an awesome tomorrow and a really great Now. I know that I’m not the only person in the world to have lost loved ones. Nor am I the only person to have battled major illnesses and survived. Upon careful reflection … and long conversations with Capital “L” Life … we have come to the conclusion that what makes me different … is that I have found a way to allow yesterday to remain in the past ... thus majorly de-cluttering the present moment.

What is this “magic” method?”, you ask. It’s nothing more complicated than a)refusing to carry everybody else’s “stuff” in my backpack and b) refusing to drag yesterday’s conversations, actions or inaction into my bed at night. As there is not much worse than a Grumpy Polly I’m really committed to working on the things that have de-perked Miss Perky during the day. And you know what I’ve discovered? Once I stop getting upset on everybody else’s behalf … cease and desist taking offence at what other people’s issues make them say and/or do … and stop participating in the Jumping-to-Conclusions Track Meet … there are a lot fewer things to work out. Capital “L” Life has a great ear for my long-winded complaints … a really broad shoulder to cry on … and thankfully a seemingly endless supply of Celestial Kleenexes. Yesterday is done and I can’t change what’s happened … but what I can do is take the lessons it imparted … leave the messy bits behind … and move on into a better tomorrow.

Godspeed and Joyful Journeying Everyone


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